First of all, may I take this beginning to make a short introduction about this article and the writer. The main goal of this article is to enlighten us about relationship; which I believe is a vital base to a great and a successful family and eventually a great and a successful nation.
Families reflects a nation, we build a nation by building families; and relationships reflects family. How relationship is, speaks a lot about how a family, if then will advance to, will be! i am certain It is one of the very important sectors in our lives.
I have known Alexandra for a year and half now, I once volunteered with her in one of this incredible orphanage center in Kilimanjaro-Tanzania (2014).
She is a great friend and a great inspiration as well. One of the areas she really inspired me is "relationship"! How she managed (together with her boyfriend Kristofer) to build a long lasting, happy, loving and an inspiring relationship.
So I asked her "what are the attributes to a successful relationship; as you are a living example?" (though my question was a bit racist, =D considering how the situation is antagonistic to most relationships in our beloved Africa).
"I would be so grateful to learn from you and I request if I can share it with friends too?" and she said "Its OK" just like I expected =D
KARIBU; Let's Learn from her:
Why most of our relationships lasts long, even between youths.
I'd say there are two major reasons.
1) We do it with all our heart. We enter with the expectation that it will last "for a lifetime" even though we admit that it might not. In thanks to that, we focus on really getting to know each other to build a strong base that we can always fall back on.
2) We trust each other. We know we've chosen each other and that is reason to trust the person you love to be truthful and loving.
These two things are bases on love. When we get to know each other we're not only lovers but also best friends, and that is what makes it last. We still have our own interests and friends but being best friends we can always rely on each other knowing your love will always have your back.
To make it work you have to be honest, kind, loving and listen. The little things are important! Just showing some extra love sometimes and make sure your love feel appreciated. This can be done by kind words, giving a massage, leaving a note, doing something together or making a nice dinner, etc.
So there is no manual how to make a perfect relationship, or how to make a relationship last but there are some things to think about. And it's definitely worth it because loving another person and feeling loved back is the best feeling in the world!
