I know this terminology has been used more often as a tool to encourage you not to feel less of yourself. Here it is again ‘‘understand your value and accept who you are’’ because you are unique and special for simply being you.
Most of times in in life we fall short in valuing our own self because we see others are off better and special than us, we underestimate ourselves into many things and overestimate others thinking that they can do and be better than us. But through this process we do not know how badly this harms us mentally and brings negative impacts in our well-being.
Here is my true story:
I grew up in a family were most of the basic things were not easily to get, or we would get them at a very low quality (this was by the time I was in primary school). I had no one to constantly make me aware of value I have, had to face the hardship until I felt that I don’t possess any value, I cannot be loved by anyone and I don’t deserve anything.
I was looking down at myself just because I didn’t have good life of getting things I wanted like most of the kids I schooled with; I believed that someone’s value or worth is determined by how rich and wealth the person is. The whole situation of not knowing my value made it even hard for me to stand in front of people and talk anything because the feeling of less deserving could not let me to walk out of it.
I worked so hard trying to prove myself worth by lying to my fellow students that I have it all at home so that I can feel accepted. I forgot the important thing that even if life was hard and could not have it all still does not decrease my value and self-worth, I forgot that I am special and unique and I can do things. I lived looking down at myself for many years, without knowing I was locking myself in those thoughts and I had all power in me to get out of it.
In this prison I even started feeling bad about my physical look as well, thinking that those girls in magazines and web pages are what define beauty. I remember looking myself in a mirror and say ‘’why do I look this ugly, and why not looking like so and so?’’. When you do not know who you are and how much value you have, you cannot fight comparing yourself with others (those you think that are better than you) on things you do, clothes you wear and even what you talk.
This comparison is not to get motivation out of it but constantly to point out mistakes when results are not better like those who think are better off. It went that way until one night I came through a statement in Facebook, it was written ‘’I found I was more confident, when I stopped to be someone’s else definition of beautiful and started being my own’’ I took time to look into it I remember for few minutes then I wrote it down in my notebook, I thought about it the whole night it made me find readings on it more from internet.
I changed my way of thinking on myself then everything about me got a new look from there. I trained myself after that to never compare anything about me with anyone as everyone is unique and special it very own way. I started positively see the value I have, confidently standing out in things by simply being me, to never explain to anyone why I am being the way I am.
Trust me it worked from me from there and it I still working for me, I started doing things I once thought I don’t deserve to do them because of my status, and I started doing best in school and other things I kept myself into.
Accept that you cannot be and look like anyone and that’s okay because you are unique and special, you can do things on your own way and that’s what you are. Stop seeking validation from others because you are enough for being you and you are very highly valuable and your value can not be traded for anything. I encourage you today to start seeing yourself positively from another perspective and start loving yourself because you are beautiful just the way you are.
