BE WHERE HE IS SO AS TO MAKE HIM BE WHERE YOU WANT HIM TO BE By William Mbogo (Bill)


Today I would like to share about some few things concern love-relationship; things that I have learned from books, movies, from friends and from time to time personal experiences. My point is; so far in my experiences and learning; I find it very helpful and worth sharing it with you.

Love-relationship is a very important type of a relationship in our lives. It has a very wide ground as well, with lots of ups and downs; accomplishment, failures, happiness, sadness.
It is indeed a very challenging part of life! And for that, it puts us in a position of learning day by day. The learning process is not easy sometimes, since, it might involve terrible mistakes and therefore; I highly press a concern for commitment, to both, men and women in a course of making it enjoyable, and making your love-world incredibly successful and unique.

One of the challenges in most of the relationships is the fact that there is a huge difference between males and females. We differ so much! We differ from the way we communicate, the way we think, we do, express our feelings, and define things and situations.

For Instance; most men are known to be single-task individuals: Meaning they do one thing at a time, something that is so different from women. Women are capable of doing many things and pay attention to all at once, effectively (they are multi-task individuals).
Now, due to these differences as I have tried to spot above, I would like to address something, which is very important but not sure if well-known or considered with most people important, especially women.

As it is psychological, most men tend to do one thing at a time (as I explained before). When men are doing an assignment the whole concentration is there. When we play games, watching football, swim, do the meeting, the whole concentration is dedicated to where we are and to what we do.
This makes a woman to feel like she is forgotten or ignored! Something that is far away from truth; it’s only that, the concentration is to where he is and to what he is doing.

The truth is you are worthier than that, he is completely yours and you better believe that he is so much into you. That is very true, although most men sometimes fail to demonstrate it that way.
As I earlier said, this should be taken as a both side’s obligation, For instance when you as a man, working on your carrier to accomplish your dreams and what you want in life, and even after you achieve it and start earning, this brings back a responsibility of making sure that your woman feels secured, happy and enjoying the same as you do from the fruits of your labor.

My dear beautiful ladies, if there is a greatest achievement you can make in a relationship, is for you to always be his home, to be where he will always think of and run to even at the midst of whatsoever challenges and frustrations. It is possible, just be there with him, for him, just where he is, not where you want him to be.
If you will force and trying hard to make him where you want him to be, that will sound like you want to control him! And as far as I know there is no person, whether male or female, who likes to be controlled by force.

If he is on an assignment or a certain duty or even a relaxing moment with friends and you just missed him, just go and be there with him, show that you care and you understand about what he is doing, show that you respect the moment; ask if he needs anything, any help
If he needs water or juice to refresh, his response will make you notice if he needs more attention on what he is doing or otherwise, don’t talk or ask much, remember what I said earlier, “if he is on one assignment he is there, the whole of him”, you will make him feel your atmosphere by your quiet-presence.

If he is watching soccer, and you miss him, you can be there also, don’t tell him to stop it or do otherwise, just be there, even though I know most women are not into soccer games, do it for him, to just win him more! And since that doesn’t require much of attention you may ask some few questions to make him feel you are interested with whatsoever going on. By doing so, you will win him completely.

Note this; BE WHERE HE IS SO AS TO MAKE HIM BE WHERE YOU WANT HIM TO BE. Is that hard to do?! It might be a little bit challenging and of course discouraging sometimes, but keep doing what is right regardless of how disappointing it can get along the way.

Wishing you a very successful relationship.

Cheers!
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